Sex.

1.How do you have sex?
Answer: Having sex intercourse is actually quite simple. When a man's penis becomes hard, he places it inside a woman's vagina, and moves it in and out. This creates friction which is pleasurable for both the man and the woman. After a while, this friction will usually cause the man to have an orgasm and ejaculate. It may also cause the woman to have an orgasm, although it can take a bit of experimentation and practice to get it right!You can have sex in lots of different positions, but one of the most common and intimate ways is for the man to lie on top of the woman, so that they can kiss and cuddle while having sex.

2.What is oral sex, and how do you do it?
Answer: Oral sex is when a person uses his or her mouth to sexually stimulate the genitals of another person. Oral sex given to a man usually means sucking or licking the penis. Oral sex given to a woman usually means licking or sucking the clitoris and other parts of the vulva (female genitals). There is no "right" way to perform oral sex on a male or a female because different things are pleasurable for different people. The specifics need to be explored by each pair of people with a little creativity and a lot of honest communication. That means you have to try different things and ask your partner what he or she likes.If a male has an orgasm during oral sex, he will ejaculate semen. The semen, if swallowed, will be digested like anything else swallowed into the stomach. Most people say semen tastes salty, but it varies from one guy to the next. However, it is not a good idea to let someone ejaculate into your mouth because unprotected oral sex can transmit STDs. Always use a condom during oral sex with either a male or a female. Some people who do not want to swallow semen choose to spit it out on a towel or tissues. Other people simply move their mouth away from the end of the penis right before the male ejaculates. Spitting semen out or moving your mouth away will not protect you from STDs, however.When oral sex is performed on a woman, partners can protect each other from STDs by using a dental dam. A dental dam is a thin sheet of latex you can get at a clinic or in some drug stores and lays over a woman's genitals. Partners can also cut a condom length-wise to create a sheet of latex to use as a barrier between the person's mouth and the vulva. Using a few drops of lubrication underneath the latex can improve the sensations for the woman receiving oral sex. Oral sex can be a very pleasurable part of sexual activity and many people enjoy both giving and receiving oral sex. Two important things to remember, though. As with any sexual act, make sure both partners truly feel comfortable with the idea before engaging in it. And, some sexually transmitted diseases can be spread through oral sex, so it is important to use condoms or dental dams. Partners can also get tested to know their status.

3.What is vaginal sex?
Answer: Vaginal sex is one of many ways for a couple to give and receive pleasure. Vaginal sex is when a couple places the man's erect penis into the woman's vagina. Then both people move together to create pleasure and possibly orgasm. For couples who choose to have sex, the most effective way to avoid a pregnancy or STDs is by using both hormonal birth control, like the Pill, and a condom.

4.What is dry sex?
Answer: "Dry sex" is a term that has different meanings to different people. Some people think it means taking off all your clothes and going through the motions of sexual intercourse, thrusting and grinding and rubbing against each other's bodies without ever inserting the penis into the vagina. Other people think it means going through the motions of sexual intercourse, without ever taking your clothes off. Dry sex with clothes on can't result in a pregnancy. If the male ejaculates in his clothes, then there is no way for the sperm to get through his clothes and into the female's vagina. If there are no clothes on, however, and semen comes in contact with the opening of the vagina, then YES a PREGNANCY IS POSSIBLE. It can also be more difficult to control your desires and hormones once your clothes are off, so it can be a lot safer for both people to keep clothes on and enjoy the pleasure without the risk.

5.What is anal sex? How do you do it?
Answer: Anal sex is when one person places an erect penis, finger, or object into the anus of another person to give and receive sexual pleasure. Many people enjoy anal stimulation. Some people, though, don't like anal sex and that's normal, too.Unlike the vagina, the anus is a tighter opening that doesn't have its own lubrication. The anus also has a very strong muscle that is designed to keep things out of the rectum. That's why most people have to "prepare" the anus for intercourse by gently inserting a gloved and lubricated finger into it to train this muscle to relax. It's also a must to use lubrication on anything going into the anus to avoid tearing or irritating the lining of the anus.When inserting something into the anus, go slowly and stop if there's pain or resistance. It's best if a person empties the bowels (goes to the bathroom) before anal intercourse and washes well before and after anal sex or oral-anal contact. Bacteria in fecal matter can spread to other body areas if someone touches your anus and then other parts of your body. For example, in heterosexual sex, be very careful not touch a girl's anus, then her vagina, since this can lead to an infection. It is important to use a condom, glove, or dental dam, and wash very thoroughly. Like other forms of sex, it is possible to transmit sexually transmitted infections between partners during anal sex by sharing fluids. This means ejaculating into or onto the anus, having oral-anal contact, or inserting something into the anus, then inserting the same object into a partner's anus, vagina, or mouth. There are lots of ways to reduce the risk of getting or giving a sexually transmited infection from anal sex. For example, you can use a male condom on the penis, toys, or your finger. You can also use a female condom inside the anus. You can put a latex or non-latex glove on your hand. For oral-anal contact, you can use a Sheer Glyde Dam over the anal area.

6.Intercourse is painful for my girlfriend. What can I do?
Answer: The most common cause of painful intercourse is too little vaginal lubrication. When a woman feels sexy, the walls of her vagina respond by giving off a liquid that wets the vagina and makes it easier for the penis to enter. You may be trying to put your penis in too soon before your girlfriend has had time to become excited enough to become lubricated or "wet." If you are the one initiating sex, it may take your girlfriend time to "catch up with you" in terms of her level of arousal. Sometimes, young men are in too much of a hurry to get to intercourse. There is a lot more to the "art" of sex than that! Be sure to take your time and don't leave out foreplay (kissing and caressing).You may also need to find out more about what pleases your girlfriend (and she must understand what pleases her so she can tell you!). How does she like to be touched? What turns her on? Do you both understand the role of the clitoris in female sexual response and orgasm?If you are using a condom, you may need to add lubrication. (Don't use Vaseline, though, because it causes latex to disintegrate.)Another reason may be that your girlfriend is tense or worried (this can cause the vaginal entrance to tighten up so that getting a penis in may hurt). Perhaps she is unsure about having sex. Have you had many serious discussions with each other about having sex? Are you sure she really wants to have sexual intercourse? Is she having sex to please herself or to please you? (Having sex only to make you happy is not a good reason for her to have sex.) Or maybe she is worried about getting pregnant. If you are not protecting her from unintended pregnancy, it will be hard for her to relax and enjoy sex. Sex without birth control for a woman who does not want to become pregnant is almost NEVER a fun experience because she's spending the entire time worrying about possible consequences instead of focusing on the good sensations.Remember that sex in real life is not like sex in the movies. The way sex is shown on TV and in the movies, it makes it seem like sex is something that magically happens. In real life, even when people understand the basics of sex, there is still plenty of learning that goes on with each new pair of people. It takes time to learn what kinds of touching and what circumstances give you and another person pleasure. It also takes time and some maturity to feel comfortable talking to your partner about what you like and what feels good. Sex takes practice. And practicing at sex is really about practicing at talking, communicating and sharing.So, if you or your girlfriend are too embarrassed to talk to each other about sex, to go get some books that will help you learn more about sex, or to see a doctor to learn about how to protect yourselves from pregnancy and disease, you might want to reconsider your decision to have sex.Most of all, don't be in a hurry. There is plenty of time to get around to including intercourse in your sexual encounters. And you want it to feel great for both of you when it finally happens! So go slow!Finally, it is also important for girls to talk to their gynecologists if they are experiencing pain during intercourse. It is possible that she may have an infection or other medical conditions.

7.What exactly is an orgasm?
Answer: An orgasm, simply put, is a physical and emotional sexual release. During orgasm, your body responds with a series of both voluntary and involuntary muscle contractions (most of which are in your pelvic area, abdomen and thighs), and those contraction push blood (inside your body, you won't bleed externally) from the tissues in your pelvis. You may, upon orgasm, ejaculate, or feel a wetness in your vagina and on your thighs.Many women experience orgasm in many different ways. It may feel intense, or it may feel relaxing. You might feel a ripple of warmth through your body, or almost a tickle. Sometimes, our awareness in our mind shifts a bit; we may feel disoriented or dizzy. Not only do women experience orgasm differently from woman to woman, we all can experience any number of different experiences of orgasm ourselves depending on our level of arousal, the means we use (masturbation, intercourse, oral sex, etc.) to achieve orgasm, and out general mood and physical well-being.Unfortunately, a lot of women don't know when they've had an orgasm, or don't trust in it, because a lot of media and strange mythology surrounding orgasm has thwarted the matter. Though it is a marvelous feeling, you may not always want to scream to the heavens, and for most women, orgasm does not happen from vaginal intercourse alone. The earth doesn't always move, nor does your head feel as if it is blown off. All in all, the best way I know to know if you've had one is if you feel satisfied.A lot of women fake orgasm, feeling if they don't "come," they are ruining something for their partners, however, this is not so, ad is a bad habit to get into, as it gives your partner false cues about what is turning you on. Sex should not be for the point of getting off, but for the entire process. if it isn't, then everyone is missing out, whether they have an orgasm or not. If kissing or masturbating isn't as enjoyable on some level as intercourse, it's time to take stock. Reaching orgasm is wonderful, and in time, you'll learn how to have one, but it's a bit like eating you dinner: the point isn't to finish what's on your plate and get away from the table, it's to savor each bite, and relish giving your body what it wants and needs, at it's own pace.

8.I'm a female about to have sex for the first time. I want to know, will sex hurt? Will there be blood?
Answer: Sex shouldn't hurt, whether it is your first time or your hundredth time. And, many females don’t bleed the first time they have sexual intercourse. If there is bleeding, it's usually because the hymen tore, but even then the bleeding is usually very little. The hymen is a thin membrane that partly covers the opening of the vagina. If sex hurts, it's usually because a woman hasn't been sexually aroused enough during foreplay. When a female becomes sexually excited, the inside of her vagina releases a special lubricating fluid that makes her vagina wet, and that helps sex feel good. If she hasn’t been sexually aroused, her vagina is usually dry before a guy puts his penis into her. And that hurts.Sex also hurts when you're scared or not ready for it. Girls who are having sex for the first time tend to be nervous. They tighten their muscles and that can make sex painful. So it's important to relax. The best way to do this is with a partner who you know and trust, someone you can talk to before, during or after sex, and who's willing to go slow and make the first time more pleasurable. Be sure to take care of STD prevention and birth control first.

9.Can you get pregnant if you have sex when you have your period?
Answer: You can only get pregnant if you have sex during the time you are ovulating (the time when your body realizes an egg). Ovulation generally takes place 14 days prior to your periods. If your cycle is 28 days, ovulation would occur exactly in the middle of the cycle (a cycle begins on the first day of your menstruation to the first day of your next menstruation). Since ovulation and menstruation do not take place at the same time, it is very unlikely that you can get pregnant if you have sex during your period.


10.How do gay people have sex?
Answer: Gays, lesbians, bisexuals and straight people can give and express pleasure in many, many ways. There isn’t just one way for two people to have sex, no matter what gender or sexuality they are.What two people of the same gender do to have sex together depends on what feels good for them. Too often, people think that sex is only putting a penis into a vagina, but that may not be the activity that brings the most pleasure to the two people. This is true for heterosexuals, bisexuals and gay/lesbian people, too.Gay people can use their fingers, mouths (oral sex), and various body parts to give and receive pleasure, just like heterosexual people. Sometimes people use penises or sex toys to penetrate the vaginal or anal opening (anal sex). It is possible to transmit sexually transmitted diseases through many of these practices, so read up on safer sex here.When two people can communicate well, they can experience a huge range of sexual activities that are mutually agreed on, pleasurable, and creative. This is true whether they are straight, bisexual, or lesbian/gay.

11.How do lesbians have sex? Do lesbians need to practice safer sex?
Answer: Lesbians, bisexuals, and any girls who are sexual with other girls can give and express pleasure in many, many ways. Just like there is no one "right" way for heterosexuals to have sex, there is no one "right" way for lesbians to have sex. What two girls do to have sex depends on what feels good for them. Too often, heterosexuals think that the only way to have sex is to put a penis into a vagina, but that may not be the activity that brings the most pleasure to the two people. Lesbians, bisexuals, and other girls touch each others' bodies by using their fingers, mouths (oral sex), and various body parts. Sometimes two girls kiss, touch each others' breasts, and touch the clitoris and other sensitive areas around the outside or inside of the vagina or anus with their fingers or sex toys. Sometimes they use their fingers or sex toys to penetrate the vaginal or anal opening (anal sex). Many girls also rub their vulvas against each other; this is called "tribadism." It is possible to transmit sexually transmitted infections through many of these practices, so read up on safer sex here.When two people can communicate well, whether they are straight, bi, or gay, they can experience a huge range of sexual activities that are mutually agreed on, pleasureful, and creative.


12.Is there any way of finding out whether a girl is a virgin or not without going to the doctors?
Answer: The only true way of knowing if a girl is a virgin is to ask her. Many cultures believe that a girl is only a virgin if she still has an intact hymen. The hymen is a thin membrane of skin that partially covers the entrance to the vagina. This membrane can bleed when it is torn as a man's penis enters the vagina. Some cultures therefore believe that blood on the sheets on a woman's wedding night is the only proof that a girl was a virgin. Neither the presence of the hymen nor bleeding during intercourse can truly indicate virginity however. Some girls are born without hymens, others will have hymens that stretch and don't break during sex, and some will have torn their hymens during sport, inserting tampons, masturbation or even riding a horse.

13.How often do people have sex?
Answer: Sexual appetite is entirely a matter of personal taste. Some people have sex once a day and others once a month. It probably varies for most people depending on whether they are in a relationship, how busy they are and how they feel. Most people think about sex far more often than they do it.

14.Is there a way of stopping premature ejaculation?
Answer: Many men find the best way to prevent premature ejaculation is to think about something dull to regain control over their time of ejaculation. When first starting a sexual relationship, some men find that the sexual excitement causes them to ejaculate before intercourse has even begun. With time most men learn how to control this. Wearing a condom can help as it can reduce sensitivity a little. Condoms containing a mild anaesthetic in the tip are also available in some countries to help further reduce sensation and delay ejaculation.

15.Does sexual intercourse hurt? Is there a need for lubrication?
Answer: Sex can sometimes be painful for a woman if she is nervous or tense. Stress and fear can mean a woman does not get sexually excited enough to produce natural lubrication, or that she involuntarily tenses her vaginal muscles, making penetration difficult. Sex can also hurt the first time a woman does it as their hymen may be torn. If sexual intercourse is painful, using a lubricant can help to make it more comfortable. When using a condom it is important that a water-based lubricant (such as KY Jelly) is used, as oil based lubricants (such as Vaseline or hand cream) can cause the condom to rot and fall apart. Ensuring that the woman is as relaxed as possible, and that intercourse is initiated slowly, can also help to make things more comfortable.Sex is not usually painful for a man (unless the penis is bent into an awkward position) so he should check with his doctor if he experiences any pain during erection or intercourse.

16.If a woman experiences problems reaching orgasm with her boyfriend can she do anything about it?
Answer: It is not always possible to achieve orgasm through vaginal penetration alone; it often needs more direct stimulation of the clitoris, which you could request from your boyfriend orally or manually, before, after, during or instead of intercourse. Talking to your boyfriend and exploring what stimulates you and what doesn't should make you able to achieve orgasm during sex.

17.Is receiving oral sex with a condom safe?
Answer: As long as they are used properly i.e. they don't split or burst, condoms can be very effective in protecting against STDs when giving oral sex to a man. When giving oral sex to a woman a thin square of latex called a dental dam can also be used to protect against possible transmission of any existing STDs. Flavoured condoms and dental dams are available to make using them more pleasant during oral sex.

18.Do you need to use condoms during anal sex?
Answer: Yes, it is important to use condoms when having anal sex to reduce the risk of passing on or contracting a STD. If two people are considering having anal sex they should think about using extra strong condoms and a water-based lubricant such as KY Jelly.

19.Is it safe to have sex when a woman is having her period?
Answer: Not all women feel comfortable having sex when they are menstruating, and some men dislike the idea of blood being present during sexual intercourse, but there is generally nothing wrong with having sex during a woman's period and it will not cause either partner any harm. This said, it is worth remembering that HIV and a few other sexually transmitted infections may be passed on more easily during a woman's period (both from the woman to the man and from the man to the woman), so a condom should always be used if there is any doubt over either partner's sexual history and HIV status. HIV cannot be 'created' by having sex with a woman on her period if both partners are HIV negative however - it is only ever passed from one person to another.

20.How do sperm and an egg meet? - Sexual intercourse
Answer: Sperm and an egg can meet when a boy and a girl have sexual intercourse. Sexual intercourse is when a boy's hard penis goes inside a girl's vagina, and he then ejaculates sperm through his penis.A boy is physically able to become a parent when he first starts to ejaculate sperm. A girl is physically able to become a parent when her ovaries start to produce eggs.

21.What are the main physical signs of sexual feelings?
Answer: The main sign for boys that they are getting sexually excited is when they get erections. The main sign for girls is when their vagina begins to get moist. The clitoris gets bigger too. For both boys and girls when they are sexually excited or "turned on", extra blood comes to the surface of the skin, particularly around the penis and vagina. You can feel warm and sensitive and sexy just about anywhere on your body.

22.Does sexual intercourse hurt the first time?
Answer: First time sex can be painful, as the penis entering the vagina can stretch or tear the hymen (the thin layer of skin that partially covers the entrance to the vagina). Not all girls have hymens (they may have been born without one or may have broken it through sport or inserting tampons earlier in life) but if they do and it tears, a girl may bleed a little. She may also find this bleeding continues the next few times she has sex, although once the tear has healed, she shouldn't have any further problems.Being nervous and tense the first time can mean a girl does not produce enough natural lubrication to allow easy penetration. Nerves can also cause the muscles in a girl's vagina to tense up, making penetration difficult. Both of these problems can make sex more painful.

24.Is there anything I can do to reduce the pain the first time I have sex?
Answer: The most important thing you can do to reduce the pain is to relax. Being relaxed, and absolutely sure you're doing the right thing means you're less likely to involuntarily tighten your vaginal muscles, and more likely to produce natural vaginal lubrication. You could also try using a lubricant, as this will make penetration easier. However if you are using condoms, you must use a water-based lubricant such as KY Jelly (available from most supermarkets and chemists). An oil-based lubricant like Vaseline will cause the latex of the condom to disintegrate.

25.Is there a "safe time" to have sexual intercourse?
Answer: There is no safe time to have unprotected sex if you wish to avoid pregnancy and Sexually Transmitted Diseases. STDs can be transmitted whenever an infected person has sex with an uninfected person, and pregnancy is always a possibility, even during a girl's period. Although women are generally only fertile for a few days every month (usually around the middle of the menstrual cycle) most women have no definite way of knowing when this is. Sperm can also survive inside the body for several days, meaning a woman can potentially become pregnant over quite a long period of time. If she has irregular periods, "safe" days can be particularly difficult to predict. Some couples do use the so called 'rhythm' method as a form of contraception, but the success rate is not high, and it also offers no protection from STDs.

26.Can a girl still get pregnant if a boy pulls out before he ejaculates?
Answer: If a boy pulls his penis out before he ejaculates, the girl can still become pregnant. Sperm can be present in pre-cum (the lubricating fluid that leaks from the penis before and during sex) and just a small amount in or around the vagina can be enough to make a woman pregnant.

27.How does a woman become pregnant?
Answer: A woman usually becomes pregnant after having sexual intercourse. This is where a man puts his erect penis inside a woman's vagina. The friction caused by moving his penis in and out of her vagina will cause him to get increasingly excited until eventually he ejaculates (or 'comes') and releases a sticky white substance called semen. This semen contains millions of tiny sperm cells, which then swim up the woman's vagina, into her uterus (womb) and then into her fallopian tubes where they may join with the tiny egg that she releases from one of her ovaries every month. If this 'joining' (also known as fertilisation or conception) occurs, then she will become pregnant.

28.I'm not sure I am ready to have sex yet.
Answer: It is really important not to be pressurised into having sex when you really don't want to. Just because your friends say that they are doing it doesn't mean they actually are. There is no 'right' age to start having sex. What is important is choosing a time that is right for you. There are many ways in which you can give and receive sexual pleasure without having sexual intercourse.Thinking through all the implications of having sex can be a useful way of helping you arrive at a decision. There are lots of reasons why people don't want to have sex. Being pushed into having sex when you don't want to could mean you might regret it later on.Although it can be hard to say what you want, it is also important to talk to your partner before you sleep together for the first time. As a rule, if you can't talk about sex, then you're not ready to have it yet. Try and be open about how you're feeling. Talking to each other will increase your confidence and reassure you that you both care about each other and are looking after each other's feelings. Also, it gives you the opportunity to talk about things that you might be worried about. Remember, even if you feel ready for sex, your partner might not, so always give them the chance to be honest with you.

29.What counts as 'sex'?
Answer: This, too, is different, depending on the laws in the place where you live. Some places count things like kissing as sexual contact, and other places only count sexual intercourse.

30.What is statutory rape?
Answer: Statutory rape is the crime that someone can be charged with if they have sex with a person who has not reached the age of consent but who agrees to have sex. Some countries have different names for this. Some states in the US for example call it 'unlawful sexual penetration' or just 'rape'.

31.Is oral sex is common practice?
Answer: Many studies have shown that oral sex is practised by men and women of all ages, both gay and straight. It is a very common practice and may be performed on its own, or before or after sexual intercourse.

32.Is oral sex safe?
Answer: A number of studies have demonstrated that oral sex is not necessarily safe sex. Both giving and receiving oral sex can lead to the transmission of sexually transmitted infections (also known as STIs or STDs).